The experience of existing between cultures, languages, expectations. The weight and the gift of multiplicity.
In this reflection we honor the weight of multiplicity. You learn to read rooms before you enter them. Who is here. How you need to show up. What version of yourself fits. After a while, the scanning becomes automatic.
At home, you are one person. Loud, maybe. Comfortable in your skin. Speaking the language that lives in your body.
Then you step outside and something shifts. The way you talk. The references you make. The parts of yourself you tuck away.
People who have never had to do this do not understand the exhaustion. You are not being fake. You are surviving. And survival takes energy.
Growing up between cultures means learning two sets of rules. What makes sense at the dinner table does not always make sense in the classroom.
What your parents value might be invisible or mocked in the world outside. You become a translator, constantly converting between systems that do not always convert.
The question "where are you from?" seems simple. The answer never is.
You are from here. But also from there. From your grandmother's kitchen and your father's accent and the neighborhood you grew up in. All of it, sometimes too much to hold.
In spaces that lack diversity, you feel your difference more sharply. You notice when you are the only one. You notice when people seem surprised by your competence. You notice when you are expected to represent everyone who looks like you.
That weight gets heavy.
But there is also range. You can move between spaces. You understand things from multiple angles. You catch nuances that others miss. People who only know one world do not have this. You earned it through experience.
The hardest moments are not the switching. They are when someone says something ignorant and you have to decide: Do I educate? Do I let it go? Do I pretend I did not hear?
Every choice costs something.
Finding people who get it helps. People who do not need you to explain why you are tired. People who understand the specific exhaustion of being hypervisible and invisible at the same time.
These relationships become anchors.
You are not broken for feeling split. You are doing something genuinely difficult. Holding multiple truths. Navigating systems that were not built with you in mind. Still showing up.
The goal is finding spaces where all of you can exist. Where you do not have to choose. Where the fullness is welcome.
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